Invitation List and Awkward Situations at Your Wedding
In planning your wedding, you will eventually have to decide who makes the invitation list and who does not. Although many people will be eliminated, there will always be those few people you decide you do not want at your wedding, but you are somehow socially obligated to invite them. In this list of somewhat undesirable people are ones that are sure to make the situation weird for everyone else. Whether they are friends, an ex, or a relative, you have no doubt that having them at your wedding will be a ticking time bomb. However, you take a few steps towards defusing this time bomb.
Depending on how you know the person in question, and just how immersed they are in your social network, you may want to avoid the situation altogether by not sending an invitation. If you are lucky you may not see the person again until after the ceremony, but if the person is sure to hear learn of your wedding and the date, you may need to make things more clear to them. You may want to send an un-invitation or find some other way to make a clean break and get this person out of your life once and for all. However, in some cases, such as if this person is your sibling, this is not even a remote possibility. If the person you are worried about is someone you cannot avoid inviting, there are some steps you can take to keep order and class at your wedding.
The worst case scenario is that your embarrassing guest will respond to the priest when he asks if anyone has any objections or reasons you should not be married. Luckily this part of the ceremony is commonly skipped in this day and age, and you can request this of your minister. However, if someone does have an objection, hopefully you can quickly glaze over it, by simply ignoring the person, or if necessary, having them removed. If you anticipate this happening, you may want to employ the help of your friends and family to prevent this from happening. Hopefully a stern talk will help, but if there is any doubt, sedatives could be the answer. If other people at your wedding feel the same way about this person, they will be more than happy to hear some snoring rather than their opinion of your marriage, as you would as well.
If you have potentially embarrassing people in your social network or family, it may be best to leave them out of your wedding, if at all possible. However, if it is necessary that they make an appearance at your wedding, you or someone else may need to have a talk with this person about minding their manners and remind them that this is your day, you are obviously not swayed by their opinion, and will not be any more moved on your wedding day. In the case that you feel that this is not enough, extreme measures may need to be taken to ensure that these awkward people do not do what they are best at.
